Let It PassSaturday, January 23, 2010 8:29
Posted in category Just Like That
As a child, I always liked calm people. I would see a halo around their head and admire them. If there’s one thing I could not bear, it was people who would get angry and shout. ‘A man who can’t control his anger, cannot control anything in his life.’
Every time I made a mistake, it was gala time for my sisters as they would happily go tell it to my mom who had one standard answer to it – ‘Let your dad come home. I’ll let him know and he’ll deal with it.’
The thing was, he’d never deal with it. The man wouldn’t say a word! He’d listen to everything the family had to say, then go lie down on his bed, and in a matter of few minutes he’d be fast asleep.
Today, I know that I pretty much do the same damn thing that he does. When I’m on the verge of getting angry, I just take a deep breath and close my eyes. A million emotions run in those few minutes – anger, shame, revenge, ego… you name it.
I let it all pass and it’s done. Life’s back to normal and I can get back to my smiling.
Of Problem Solving:
To hell with all the theories of problem solving. My grandpa taught me how to be the best at it! I used to go to my mom’s village during my vacations and would sleep in a bed next to my grandpa.
My old man was the head of the village and invariably there was some fight every morning. ( I still can’t understand why would someone give up on the early morning sleep to have a fight.) About 7am there was either a family or a few neighbors fighting over something.
I would be half asleep when all these conversations happen and the only thing that my grandpa would say is, ‘you are too agitated now for a discussion. Have a cup of tea now and go back home. Come after a week and we’ll talk about it.’ After a week, no one would return – the issue gets resolved on its own or people forget about it!
He’d pass his wisdom to us, ‘Never solve the problem at the moment it arises. Always let things cool down and everything will fall into place on it own like a magic.’
I can’t remember when I last got angry or when I actually solved a problem in my life! I just let it pass. Everything is back to normal and I smile
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